If you’re hanging out with me, here or elsewhere, you’re likely someone with a decent curiosity about life. It’s a precious gift, this life. The world we live in as well. The creation and development of both you and the world were so absolutely unlikely and yet, here we all are. We’re anomalies per se. And each one of us is completely unique. Within this menagerie of misfits, we all fit. We all have potential to share and we all have access to our potential.
Funny that most of us have no idea how that works.
Funnier that we aren’t taught much about it until we get to to one of those phases of life when everything seems dire and we sign up for the weird self-help, self-improvement, manifestation, claim your power, you can do it workshops facebook starts offering you when it notices you’re down. Maybe we stay for half of it.
So what’s wrong? And what’s right? And… what’s wrong?
At certain points in our life, we suffer. It’s part of life. Buddha nailed it. Jesus got it. Lao Tsu, MLK, Jr., George Harrison… a bunch of greats and lesser knowns from all time. They shared with us their compassion because they knew: we all suffer sometimes. We also have ways to understand our suffering and how to relieve it.
We have to understand the source. This is when what’s wrong can be replaced by what’s right. In order to do so, we have to remember that we each are idiosyncratic beings with our own set of funny habits responsive to our own set of history books. The way that I deal with a headache, for example, may not be the same as the way you deal with a headache. The way your friend tolerates muscle pain will be different from the way you tolerate muscle pain. We each have our ways and our way out of them is as unique as the way we got there.
When we set about trying to feel better, we first have to understand why we feel bad. People don’t like this part. It requires a commitment to recognize patterns that don’t work well for us. Then we have to inquire into the source of them. May we be grateful for every experience that brought us to the present moment. We’ve made it. Please know this.
The adventure into ourselves must be navigated with a deep commitment to personal honesty. This means that we listen carefully to ourselves first and hear what we have to say. Often, I hear clients asking for evidence that the experience they had is legitimate. Here we have a fine example of placing our own subjective experience lower on the dais than some attempt to define an objective reality.
This, my dear friends, makes very little sense when it comes to our own inner explorations. I won’t say it’s wrong, but maybe you can discover how to make your investigations a little more right. If you want science-backed data, be the scientist of you. Who knows you better than you? Who is better positioned to listen to your body and train your mind? Who has direct access to your spirit?
It’s you, my friend. What’s right is you. What’s wrong is thinking you’re anything less than perfect. What’s right is an instinct to explore yourself with wonder. What’s wrong is believing you’re not worth your awe.